I have seen people at their worst possible moments, people are dark, complex and to be honest quite scary! When I say I have seen this I mean to say I have been the head of security at three hotels near Detroit Metro Airport, I have worked with the local police, the DEA, the FBI and the Secret Service on various incidents and dignitary type visits to the area. I have seen my share of death and how people react to it, I have even seen how horrible people can be when mass death occurs as I was one of the first responders to the crash of flight 255 at metro airport. I have seen first hand how despicable people can be on large scales. A while after that I became a reserve police officer for the city of Dearborn Heights, MI and again found out how stupid people are in general. So when I say I have seen how the actions of others affect people I truly do mean it!
That said the following story still baffles me to this day!
2010 I started dating a woman (my marriage all but over at this time)
who lived in Europe. I guess I did not mind the distance because we saw
each other on skype or spoke every day. In November of that year I
finally got brave enough to go there and visit her. It was without a
doubt the most fun I had ever had, the sex was great, the food was great
and the scenery was fantastic. I took several thousand photographs
that trip and still look back fondly at them. That trip was a week long
action packed moment in time.
Several days after I had returned
to the states, I received a panic phone call from her indicating that
"someone" had created a fake Facebook account and had sent her then
boyfriend who had just purposed to her in March of that very same year,
her parents and herself an email. She had asked if I had seen it or
gotten a copy of it, I had not and to my amazement within moments the
fake Facebook person sent me a copy as well. Interesting I thought, and
timely. The email essentially described the fact that I had made the
trip as well as things that were done on that trip that only she and I
knew. She accused me of telling everyone about the trip, telling
everyone what we had done, that was confusing because I was not sure
"who" everyone was considering I was not about to tell my wife or
daughter and my time spent in my art studio I was alone 99.9 percent of
I told her to calm down we would find out who did this
somehow. I was able to extract and save the entire Facebook page set up
by this person and quickly discovered that there was a great deal of
data imbedded in it. I spent a few days pulling out what I could and
then discovered what was a list of i.p. addresses. At the time I
thought they were nothing more then the addresses for those visiting the
page. I would soon find out the truth!
I purchased a piece of
software the allowed me to enter the addresses and trace them. They
were not as it turns out individual addresses, they were all linked
together and lead me to the person who created the Facebook page. The
results took only an hour to discover and because I had trouble lifting
my jaw off the table at seeing the results I reran the trace several
dozen times! The trace lead me back to her, right down to her computer
name. Confused I wondered why exactly she would do this, why she would
lie about it! I decided not to tell her, but to point her in a
different direction so I could some how verify this potentially damaging
information. So I concocted a lame story about someone else and
every-time it was brought up I deflected it to: I need time, results
need to be sure...blah, blah, blah.
When I say they were not i.p.
addresses from individuals I mean they were of computers but the way
the internet works when you visit a site you reach across many
computers, the software I purchased traced a line from each i.p. address
back to the only person who could have created the fake Facebook page.
Now I needed to verify what I had found out. One of the things she
would do was get ready for bed and fall asleep while I worked on my art
while we were on Skype. It was one of those things I enjoyed about our
time together. None the less during one of these Skype sessions I fired
up the software I had purchased and ran a live trace. One of the
things I had discovered about the internet was that if a computer could
reuse a known pathway it would. The result of this trace was in fact
nearly identical to the one above. The most damning part of it was the
fact that both traces pointed directly to her phone/internet service
provider all the way down to her computer name. They were identical on
Why would someone do this? Was the question that
kept creeping into my head. Why would someone put her parents through
such a thing let alone the man she claimed to want to marry, though the
later was a bit sketchy considering she had been having affairs since he
proposed just months before. Maybe it was a way to break it off from
him, maybe it was a way to anger her parents enough so they would leave
her alone. I really don't know, things got very crazy with both our
lives in the months ahead and I would never talk about it, I never told
her of the results I had found. I did talk to a few other very close
friends looking for some sort of reality check but again life got in the
way so it was never discussed with her.
The actions of others
are as confusing as ever, they hurt, they cause doubt in this case they
were designed to hurt others. She was one that used the word "hate"
very often regardless if it was about a thing or person all the while
claiming to be a "nice" person. I do think she is full of hate, but
hate mostly for herself. That hate unfortunately gets misdirected onto
others, her family, her friends, even her lovers. I am most frustrated
with the fact that she never came clean about this, I gave her endless
opportunity, she kept to her story like the perfect little liar.
seeing her once more here in the states and then again in her home town
our relationship had come to a close, we tried on a few occasions to
speak but the anger between us was and is still much to great. My anger
at having discovered who she really is will prevent me from ever
communicating with her again. I enjoyed the good times we spent
together but someone that devious would stop at nothing to hurt others.
On a side note she did admit hacking into my email and Facebook that
first week we spent together in Europe, oddly enough her reasoning was
she did not trust me. Not a way to start a relationship with someone,
then again maybe all she wanted was to use me to drive a wedge further
between her parents, her boyfriend and herself. I don't know anymore as
I question the reality of it all!
The actions of others cause
pain and hurt, if she ever makes it back to my blog and reads this it
will be the first time she discovers that I know/have known the truth of
her actions, that I am embarrassed for her because of them, as I have
been since the second I discovered it!